Since I became a mom 10 1/2 years ago, I have worn all the hats. Full time working mom (right after Julian was born), Stay at home mom, part time working mom, work from home, stay at home mom. I am surrounded by women who do it all. Most of my friends are working moms, with no help other than their spouse, and they somehow juggle their households, their jobs and their children without breaking a sweat. I also have friends who do not work, but give so much back to the community and their schools. They are the ones heading committees, planning the classroom parties, and chairing fundraisers. They are working, but they do it all for free!
I often think about how amazing women are. We take on EVERYTHING, and don’t even think twice about it. I don’t think my husband fully understands the amount of emails, the precise scheduling it takes, and the amount of organization it requires just to keep our shit together 🙂 Practices, playdates, homework, school projects, gifts for teachers, half days, no school days, school spirit day, crazy hair day, bring money to school day, birthday parties. The list goes on and on.
Pile that on top of your home life. Remembering bills, getting things repaired, keeping the house clean, and the LAUNDRY!!! And how about just getting meals on the table 7 days a week???!!!!!! That in itself is a huge chore! Shopping, planning, preparing, executing is tasking and stressful. Especially when you compile this with multiple children’s sports after school, homework, and other activities. If money was no object the first thing I would do is hire a chef. Wouldn’t that be amazing?
I have been fortunate to be a freelance writer and wardrobe stylist for the past 6 years. Most of my work can be done when the kids are at school, or I tend to write at night after everyone goes to sleep. I am in awe of the mom’s who work 8-5, or longer for some of you. Also, those of you who travel during the week, and do it on a regular basis. I feel like you are the parents who are the MOST organized. One of my good friend has 5 children, runs a company, gives her time to charitable causes, runs everyday, and is always organized; and on top of it she always looks impeccable. She is a super woman and a super mom. She is my inspiration!
Those of you who have found that “person” or “people” who help your families, you are lucky and blessed. It is not easy to let someone into your life, and to trust them with your children. So, when you do find that person, it provides with you with a sense of comfort and relief knowing that there is someone on the other end holding down the fort, while you are working your ass off to provide for your family.
When there is a spare moment during the day (and we all know that there isn’t much), You somehow fit in doing something for yourself. You get up extra early to workout just for your sanity. Or you do a home workout while your babies are napping. Gone are the days when you would shop in the store, so you browse online, tired, after the kids have gone to bed. Spa days? What is that? You may occasionally squeeze in a facial, or a mani-pedi but you are usually rushed and squeezing it in between a meeting and pickup at school.
Being a mom IS the hardest job. We are so blessed to have given this role in life, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging, or tasking and sometimes defeating. We can’t beat ourselves up, and we need to give ourselves more credit! We also need to support every mom; no matter what their situation may be. Just remember that we are all just doing our best.
So, what should you do today? First off, do what makes you happy and don’t feel bad about sneaking away for an hour or two (for me, that will be a workout with some 90’s rap blaring). Also, call or text a friend and remind them how amazing they are. The mom hustle is HARD, and sometimes we need to be reminded that we are doing a kick ass job.