41 is kicking my a$$

My 40th year was one of the best years of my life. I felt REALLY good. I was like if this is what my 40’s are going to be like, I am ALL IN!

41 hit, and all hell broke loose. Anyone else feel this way?? My best friends and I are on a daily text string together and this is one thing we were all discussing last week. A few of us definitely feel the affects of 40 plus. My friend and I were chatting this weekend about it too; why doesn’t anyone warn us about all the shit that happens with your body when you hit 40?

I am not sure why, but this year has been so hard on me mentally and physically. Jon was teasing me last week that I was turning into Betty White (who just turned 97 by the way!). But I have struggled with things I had never felt before. Chronic pain in my back, a leg injury that is taking forever to heal, the inability to workout as hard as I used to, waking up in pain, and having trouble sleeping.

Overall, my body just does not recover like it used to. I pulled a muscle in my leg, in November. I had dry needling done at the FIT clinic in KC over Christmas vacation. It helped a lot, and I really thought it was getting better. But I am still not 100%, which is frustrating. I am not sure what in the heck I did to my back, but I wake up in pain every morning. It is between and underneath my shoulder blades. I started taking CBD pills this week which has been a lifesaver for the pain. I am making an appointment for acupuncture this week to see if that helps.  Other things that helping me are this cream by Rixx which really works amazing, and it doesn’t have a funky smell to it. I have been taking Epsom salt baths; soaking for at least 20 minutes. The CBD pills are by Hemp Fusion and they work! 

I also feel like my metabolism came to a screeching halt. I used to be able to workout 3-4 days a week, eat healthy majority of the time, and then splurge on the weekends. Those cheat days are no longer an option. Not only do I feel like crap when I eat that way, but I also feel like my body has to work twice as hard is it used to to burn it off. But, let’s be honest, nobody is perfect. I had shake shack this weekend! ugh! We all need to splurge every once in a while, and it is ok!!! It’s also much harder to maintain a flat stomach. I have to eat SUPER clean, and really only have clean cocktails (vodka soda’s) to keep the love handles at bay 🙁

My gray hairs tripled this past year. Maybe it is stress, maybe it is just genetic (my grandmother was completely white at an early age) I think blonde hair hides the gray a little better, but it’s still annoying to see. Also, gray eyebrows anyone?! WTF! I have had to pluck a few of those! I have heard good things about this Oribe root touch up spray, to get between color appointments. It comes in multiple colors for all shades.

I look at this picture and all I see are the bad wrinkles around my eyes. It is a harsh reality that wrinkles are also coming in faster than they used to. After age 30, collagen production in the body stops by 1-2% each year! I wish someone would have told me 10 years ago to start taking collagen powder, and to use a stronger SPF everyday.  All of you under 30, you have so many resources out there now! Be proactive!

Thankfully there are so many great treatments we can do to keep our skin in good shape. I am going to write a little bit more on this in an upcoming post. But, I did start doing botox at 39, I have been getting BBL lasers every year for the past 5 years, and last year I tried voluma filler in my cheekbones, which does give a good lift around the cheeks and eyes.  I add Vital Proteins collagen powder to my coffee every morning too, which helps obviously with skin, hair and nails, but also gut health.

It is hard to embrace aging, but when it comes down to it, we just need to be grateful for our health.  There are women under 40 dealing with chronic disease, unable to care for their families. So, just being able to get out of bed each day is a blessing!

And remember, we are all in this aging process together! It is great to be able to share our favorite products, treatments and lifestyle hacks to continue to age gracefully 🙂 So, if you are doing something that is life changing, please share!

Have a great week everyone!

xoxo, Melanie




  1. I know how you feel about your body not healing like it once did. I sprained my foot in October and it still isn’t completely healed. I had to give up on yoga during that time and my mental health is a mess! Was gonna start back tonight, but looks like freezing rain in KC…again. I love my vitamin C serum for my face and Vital Proteins everyday. I’d love to say I’m going to age gracefully but I’ll probably fight it kicking and screaming!

  2. Try going to a physical therapist for the back and leg pain! I’m 29 and have had back pain for 2 years – tried all the alternative methods – cupping, massage, etc. – and while there is a place for every method, nothing has been able to correct the issue like physical therapy. They identified the problem and are giving me the treatments and specific strength exercises and to actually fix it forever. I’m feeling better than I have in so long. Just my two cents, but I recommend it if the pain continues to linger!

  3. Go to an alternative health clinic and get your hormones checked!!! Western medicine will tell you that you are fine, and their lab values are based on illness, not wellness. If you look up symptoms of low testosterone and hypothyroidism, you’ll find that you have a lot of not most. Supplementing these alone was life changing for me!!!

  4. I play tennis about 4 days/week and I can definitely tell that my body is not bouncing back like it used to!! I pulled a muscle running a ball down in the fall and it took forever to heal. I started doing cryotherapy once a month and I love it, I absolutely hate the 3 minutes but I walk out of there pain free!!

  5. Thanks so much for the tips! I’m definitely feeling most of these aging side effects. I live in KC and would like to try some lazer treatment. Is there a specific aesthetician/RN/MD you can recommend?

  6. Yes 40s are hard! Thanks for sharing this. I’m also having a weird and unpredictable cycle for the first time in my life. Like every 3 weeks! My dr said this is the unpredictability of perimenopause. Ugh. So I’m trying to focus on a diet that balances hormones, which is a high fiber diet with lots of vegetables. And less drinking because alcohol raises estrogen. Good luck and take care❤️

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